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Separation Anxiety! Children and adults who care for them can both struggle with separation anxiety. Many kids get nervous when they are away from their caregivers, like on the first day of daycare when you leave your child with a helper or when they start school. It can also be challenging for parents who have to leave their kids because they might feel guilty or stressed. Implementing a few proven tips can help make the process easier for you and your child.
This blog post will explain separation anxiety, its causes, and some valuable tips on how to deal with it.
Being anxious about being alone is a normal part of growing up, especially for babies and children. It’s when kids are scared or uncomfortable when they’re not with their primary caregivers. This starts around 6 to 8 months and is at its worst between 12 and 18 months. It is common in babies, but it can happen to anyone, mainly when big changes occur, like the first few days at daycare or preschool, moving to a new house, or changing their habits.
Kids depend on their parents for comfort and safety, it’s normal for them to be upset when they are left or cant see the person they trust. Although it may be hard, it’s important to remember that your child’s separation anxiety is a good sign. It means they have a strong bond with you, an essential part of their emotional growth.
Separation anxiety in kids can happen for several reasons: Raising Children.
Attachment: Babies understand that people and things exist even when they can’t see them; this starts around six months. This is called object memory. They may feel more nervous when they know you’re not around.
Fear of the Unknown: Kids feel safe with people they know and trust. They may feel scared or unsure when they’re in new places or with people they don’t know, which can lead to anxiety.
Many significant changes in your life, like moving to start daycare, kindergarten, or school, can make separation anxiety worse. Change in a child’s routine typically causes anxiety.
Separation anxiety isn’t just bad for kids; it’s also hard on the moms and dads who care for them. People who have to leave their kids often feel bad or worried when their child is upset. Trying to comfort your child while dealing with your feelings can be too much.
It’s OK to feel this way. Doing your best for your child shows that you care about them. But it’s also essential to keep your emotions in check so that you can help your child get through this time. Remember, you are your child’s role model.
These are some of the easy steps that can help your child feel better about being away from you and make the process easier: Top tips
1. Set up a routine that you can count on
Knowing what to expect makes kids feel safer. Try to make a regular way to say goodbye, like giving them a special hug or kiss or saying something like, “I’ll see you soon!” This lets your child know you’ll always be there for them and makes them feel safe during the change.
2. You should start with short breaks
If your child has separation anxiety, start by leaving them for short amounts of time and slowly lengthening the periods. You could leave them with a trusted family member or helper for short amounts first and gradually increase the separation time. This will make your child feel safe and sure you’ll always return.
3. Stay calm and positive
Kids can tell when their moms and dads are sad or happy. Your child may feel the same if you look unhappy or worried as you leave. Stay calm and positive when you say goodbye. Say things like, “I’ll be back soon”. Your child will feel safer with your reassurance. Don’t spend too much time saying goodbyes; leave soon after reassuring your child.
4. Use objects that make you feel better
When you’re not around, a favourite toy, blanket, or picture of the whole family can help your child feel safe. These things make them feel at ease and home, reminding them that you will be back.
5. Get your child ready for new places
Take your child to see the new place a few times before the first day of school or daycare. Meet their new teachers or caregivers and let them help you look around the place. Slowly introducing your child to new places can help them feel less anxious when it’s time for you to leave them there.
6. Don’t sneak off
It might seem easier to leave while your child is busy, but sneaking off can make separation anxiety worse. When your child realises you’re gone, they may feel lost or confused, worsening the situation when you try to leave them again. Saying goodbye is important, even if it makes both of you cry. Saying goodbye helps build trust and is helpful for the long term.
7. Give your kid time to get used to things
Kids need time to get used to things that are new to them. Allow your child time and space to talk about how they feel. Many kids will cry or cling at first, but with time and reassurance, they’ll learn that being away from you is only temporary and that you’ll always return.
8. Give praise and support
When your child does well with separation, praise them for their growth. Say, “You were so good today staying with the babysitter!” Giving them praise
makes them feel better and makes it easier for them to deal with being away from you.
9. Seek for professional helpÂ
Seek professional help if you feel stressed or not sure how to deal with your separation anxiety. New parents who need extra assistance can talk to Parenting Experts who can give them personalized parenting advice. Parenting Genie offers 1 on 1 customised consultations. These professionals can provide you with guidance that is specific to your child’s needs and give you the confidence you need to deal with separation anxiety and any other parenting challenges.
10. Get help right away with Genie Chat
Anxiety about being apart from your partner can happen at any time. If it does, you can always use Parenting Genie’s Genie Chat 24/7 to get help. Real-time help is available through Genie Chat whenever you need it, and parents find it helpful.
It’s normal for kids to have separation anxiety. It can be challenging at times, but there are many things you and your child can do to make it easier. You can help your child feel safer and more confident by doing easy things like setting up a routine, giving them comfort items, and asking for help when needed. Always consider your family life and parenting styles.
Don’t forget that Parenting Genie is always here to help. They offer a wide range of services, and Parenting Live Experts are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Genie Chat is also always open to help.
Raising Children has additional tips on managing separation anxiety.
